How To Have A Relationship With A Smoker Until They're Ready To Quit Smoking

Air is a requirement for life, so you definitely want it if you're looking to stay alive, but is it possible to have someone in your life that you can love if they have the smoking habit? Should you just say "no" to a relationship or give it a try?

If you really like this person and believe you would like them in your life you definitely have to discuss up front the possibilities and the ground rules that are tolerable and workable for a relationship as they pertain to the smoking habit.

For example, if you are allergic to smoke, you don't want the smoke in your house. You can discuss with your potential partner your physical needs and see if this person is willing to structure boundaries for the habit. First, is this person willing to smoke outside the home 100 percent of the time, not just sometimes?

What will happen when the weather is ugly and it would be more convenient to light-up in the house?

You will know if that person will really consider you and do the right thing for your personal well-being if they're willing to smoke outside even if it's freezing cold.

Next, what will be the restrictions and problems if you take a drive in the car. Ask if you can agree that there will not be any smoking in your car because you will not be able to tolerate the cigarette smells if they stay in you car. They will stay in your car if you allow them. Cigarettes get in your house, your car, and for those of us sensitive to smoke and odors, it gets in your hair and you want to puke.

You can just smell it on your hair and it's awful.

What do you do when someone wants to kiss you and they smoke? They have to know that as much as you might find them attractive or sexy, you cannot handle the smell of the cigarettes on their breath. The cigarette smell is a real turn-off. Let your partner keep a small toothbrush and toothpaste available to keep the cigarette smoking from interfering with more part of your relationship.

Making each other special in a relationship is about both parties considering each other. This also means that the non-smoker should look for ways to consider the smoker when it comes to fresh breath, cleanliness, and other considerate acts.

As a relationship progresses and your love for this person grows you should explore the reasons why the person smokes and even work toward helping your partner reduce the number of cigarettes smoked or help with ideas on quitting.

In the last two weeks, my partner has been trying a medication called "Chantrix" to help him stop smoking. As the days progress, the medication lets his brain know that the cigarettes don't taste good and it's been helping him cut down and should help him quit. I'm extremely excited because I love him and want him to be around for a long time. He hasn't had any side effects and he's cut his smoking in half. I'll keep you posted.

Lori Wilk, MBA is the host of internet talk show "Successipes" at http://www.success-talk.com

The program offers recipes for success in business and living. Lori is a motivational speaker who makes daily presentations on the Las Vegas Strip. She's an author of self-help and business books, trainer, and business consultant.

Go to http://www.loriwilk.com

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Stop Smoking Aids Alone Not As Effective As Complete Plan For Quitting

One of the first stop smoking aids was nicotine gum, which worked for some, but not for others. Most professionals now feel that you need a complete stop smoking treatment plan, beginning with a plan to quit.

Quitting is hard, something that anyone who has ever smoked on a regular basis knows. At one time, it was simply considered a habit, one that people should be able to kick. Now we know that the nicotine in cigarette smoke is addictive.

According to the American Heart Association, nicotine is one of the most addictive substances known. The addiction is comparable to cocaine or heroin addiction. So, if you smoke a pack a day or more, you are probably addicted.

Stop smoking aids such as the older nicotine gum and the newer nicotine patches are designed to replace the nicotine that your body craves and gradually reduce the amount that you need to prevent withdrawal symptoms. You could achieve the same effect by gradually reducing the number of cigarettes that you smoke per day. The most important part of any stop smoking treatment is the desire to quit.

If you are still thinking that you should quit, then you may not be ready to quit. As an ex-smoker, I know the physical pleasure that you associate with smoking a cigarette. There is a scientific reason for those feelings of pleasure.

Recently scientists have learned that when a person lights up, the nicotine reaches the brain in about 7 seconds. There, it increases the level of dopamine, a chemical that generates feelings of pleasure. In a sense, you are not addicted to nicotine; you are addicted to higher than normal levels of dopamine, just as you would be if you used cocaine, heroin or amphetamines.

However, dopamine, given as a drug, does not cross the blood-brain barrier, so there will never be stop smoking aids containing dopamine. They wouldnt work.

Substituting one addiction for another is not an appropriate stop smoking treatment, but you do need to find some other things that you really enjoy doing. It is particularly helpful if the things that you do cannot be done while smoking.

For example, physical activities, such as biking, hiking, running, swimming, tennis or anything else that you can think of, can be effective stop smoking aids. Not only because you cannot smoke while doing them, but also because your brain releases feel good chemicals similar to dopamine during strenuous physical activity.

For indoor activities, find things that require the use of both hands, such as knitting or even reading a paper back novel. Try to go places where smoking is prohibited, like the theatre or the library. These kinds of activities will not reduce the physical cravings, but they can help you break the smoking routine.

Patsy Hamilton was a health care professional for over twenty years before becoming a health writer. Currently she is writing a series of articles about quitting smoking. Read more at http://www.stop-smoking-blog.com

If you have physical withdrawal symptoms, such as trouble concentrating or sleeping, you may need some type of nicotine replacement for a complete stop smoking treatment plan, but remember that the patches and the gums can have negative side effects. The gum made me nauseous. The patch made my heart pound. It took me several months to final quit for good, but some of the newer stop smoking aids promise faster results. To learn more about them, please visit http://www.stop-smoking-blog.com

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